Being nervous is different than acting on fear. We all get nervous from time to time... it's when we allow that fear to govern our actions that we have problems. Example: One of my biggest fears was public speaking... & I let that fear get the best of me for years. I have finally overcome that fear; I still get a little twinge of nervousness... but I don't let that keep me from doing it & the more I practice it... the easier it gets. The goal for today, destroy fear with thoughts of Faith & Freedom! Have a great day everybody!
When someone comes to me with a problem, it's not my job to tell them what's right or what's wrong... it's my job to ask them "Do 'YOU' think it's selfish, resentful, dishonest or afraid?". I teach people how to consult their own conscience... rather than give them my opinion. You will act on what 'YOU' believe, not what I believe... & misery comes from trying to live up to other peoples standards. The goal for today, help people find their own answers... because the Right answers always come from within! Have a great day everybody!
I look at human problems the same way I look at math problems. I believe that 2+2=4. If I give you the same 'problem'... do you come up with a different 'solution'? Now this: (problem) selfishness = unhappiness (solution) selflessness = happiness. If we have the same problem... we MUST have the same solution. The goal for today, know that we all have the same problems & the same solutions... then we can truly Live together & Love each other! Have a great day everybody!
There is Wisdom in all things! If I'm looking hard enough, I can learn from every person & experience. If I'm told the Truth... I should learn from it. If I'm told a lie... I should learn from it. If someone helps me... I should learn from it. If someone hurts me... I should learn from it. We are all surrounded by lessons on all sides... at all times... & the bad ones are just as important as the good ones. The goal for today, be grateful for every experience... good, bad or otherwise... because Wisdom is born of experience! Have a great day everybody!
"It's impossible to understand someone & not love them" ~Ender Wiggin. If I understand that most people lie because they don't know the Truth... then I won't be hurt by their lies & I can Love them. If I understand that people are hurtful because they have been hurt... then I won't get angry & I can Love them. If I understand that most arrogance comes from a lack of self-esteem... then I won't become fearful & I can Love them. The goal for today, don't take it personally... understand & Love! Have a great day everybody!
Sometimes I know what's best for people... sometimes I don't. Either way... I have no right to force my will on other people. I can help only the willing & when I attempt to help the unwilling, I usually end up doing more harm than good. For example: I've learned a lot about the nature of God, politics & addiction... but I have no right to force you to believe what I believe... even when I'm right! The goal for today, help those who are asking for help & allow the rest the freedom to follow their own beliefs! Have a great day everybody!
If I want to overcome the fear of being alone & have a happy, healthy relationship... I must focus on giving Love, rather than getting Love. If I want to overcome the fear of running out of money... I must be disciplined & get rid of the desire to spend more than I make. If I want to overcome the fear of what others think of me... I must find out who I am & learn to be the best version of myself that I can be. The goal for today, know that Happiness doesn't come from women, money & popularity... it comes from being Loving, disciplined & confident! Have a great day everybody!
"Their faults are not discussed. We stick to our own" ~Anon. I once thought... "My girlfriend made me defensive & I need to tell her about it & set some boundaries". This is an absolutely terrible idea! 1) It's a lie to believe she 'made' me defensive, as if I had no choice in the matter. 2) If I say that... I can guarantee that 'she' will become defensive. 3) The best way to get someone to see their mistakes, is to admit my own. The goal for today, don't be a doormat... but don't treat others like one either! Have a great day everybody!
I lived most of my life on an emotional roller coaster & it was exhausting... dizzying. When I went out in search of a solution, this is what I found: I had to stop taking everything so personally... it's not always all about me. I had to stop lying to myself about my worth... my strength... & my responsibilities. I had to stop blaming my highs & lows on everyone else. I had to stop basing my decisions on fear. The goal for today, learn how to cope with life & get off the roller coaster! Have a great day everybody!
A few years ago my life was falling apart... I was miserably unhappy & my first thought was 'I need to get out of this town & away from these people'. Much to my dismay... I was still miserably unhappy when I moved to a new town... with new people. The reason that moving didn't work is because the problem was inside of me... & until something changed inside... then the problem could not be solved. The goal for today, if I'm not happy with my life... the first thing I should change is 'ME'! Have a great day everybody!